Filing a sexual harassment complaint
By samanthaorwell on July 23, 2008 - 12:33pm
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I have decided to file a complaint. My letter will describe the incident and demand that there be sensitivity training prior to the hiring process and, furthermore, if there are complaints made, formal mandatory classes into harassment and gender equity and suspension until they are fully completed.
Now my question to the men out there: I DO realize that these policies arely do exist at many institutions. And many of my own male-friends go through them and, to be be honest, they say they are a bitch to go through and they already know what to do and what not to do. And they do fine when passing through the motions of these "sensitivity trainings". My question is do these work at all? Do you llike..think twice about the words that come out of your mouth? Or do you just go through the motions, pass it, and resume your everyday behaviour.
NOT to say that your everyday behaviour is sexist, etc. But men are socialized to, some degree, to be men- do stereotypical "man" things. Like the commenter said from the last post, when men get together it is a whole other story, but when they are acting alone they rarely act so rudely. And it is true, for the most part in my experience. Men hoot and holler in groups but when they are alone they are quite respectful and politely compliment me.
But group-mentality/ the way you are socialized to behave in society or in front of others... sometimes it is deplorable. and I'm curious- what does it take to get you men, who can admit they can sometimes act shamefully towards the other gender, to stop doing that? Does sensitivity training really work or do we have to re-socialize men altogether?
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Dear 'Sam'- you semi-sweet thing, you...
You're playing the game all wrong, Kid! You're supposed to grin and bear it, and above all ignore the hell out of it. You getting on the web here and howling & yelling and kicking and scratching and snarling and growling about it is exactly the kind of reaction you DON'T want to be giving those bastards. Now then - how old did you say you were? Hmmmm - that old, huh? And you haven't learned yet how guys react to what they think are pretty girls, huh? So tell us please - how the hell did you get into UBC anyway? Or are you just visiting someone there? I'm very disappointed in you, Kid.
The generalizations are getting old. You're also spamming Urban Vancouver with this nonsense. Keep it on your own blog.
At least I'm not afraid to sign my own name to a submission. You should try it sometime, instead of making a total ass of yourself in front of God and everybody who visits this site. And any time Richard or Roland decide that I ought to pack this up, I'm sure they know me well enough by now to say so. Taking advice from anonymous hecklers isn't my style. If you don't enjoy reading what I write, imagine how I feel about reading some of your stuff....
that comment was meant for me or ray?
i'm confused.
i'm confused, in fact by all these comments.
feels myopic to contain my venting to this one incident.
the point is that women shouldnt' be subject to this in the first place. and if this were an equitable world this would never happen. i dont' see how that is grounds for calling me naive or stupid.
you may call me an optimist at best, or worst, but when has optimism ever been stupid?
anyways..i don't get it. I dont' understand how people are okay to live in the status quo and not see the larger picture.
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Are you having a 'nervous breakdown' or what? Seems like you need a vacation.
I haven't been following this stuff very much lately. I've been trying to understand a few computer problems that seemed to magically develop a few days ago, and that's been keeping me busy for several days. I think it's OK now, but I'm right on the verge of loading this whole rig onto a cart and hauling it down to the big blue bins. It seems that every time I get everything working right, another fresh upgrade to one thing or another comes along, and upsets the delicate balance of everything else, and then more hours are wasted sorting it all out again. If those guys down in Redmond, Washington are so smart, why can't they develop a computer program that can scan itself about once a week, and report on its condition, or better yet, repair itself by connecting to Mother Microsoft's home base? Mostly, what we get for our money is more trouble than we bargained on. (and I cleaned that one up a LOT!)
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